He Says He Wants Space, But Doesn’t Want to Lose You

by Ambrosia on May 2, 2012

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Leszek Masternak from painters birmingham July 14, 2011 at 6:55 am: Well, when men need space its nothing to worry about. They just want to be alone and solve some issues. Let them do that. Yes, they may seem inconsiderate and un-caring, but let them the way they are without complaining. Soon they would be back with much more love and care. Till then, keep yourself busy with other things and let your man take his time.
Shiliang from microscope July 15, 2011 at 8:16 am: I don’t think it is easy to say to your partner that you need space. If you say this to your wife then she feels rejected and does everything to win you back. There is no need to make all these special efforts because there is nothing wrong, only that we men need space. In trying to win back women tend to come closer and that’s when men withdraw!
Brian Kalish from food allergy and food intolerance August 9, 2011 at 1:55 am: For a woman, his man is the entire world. However, for a man, woman is only a part of life. Better to accept this fact and let them have their space. It is good for both. If you do not give them space they would feel you are possessive and run away from you. Let them be like free birds and do not criticize.
Olivia September 7, 2011 at 10:29 pm: This sounds exactly what I’m experiencing right now! My “so called ex” wants to be alone right now but doesn’t want to lose me. The thing is, he is being very cruel although he says he cares for me. Last night for example, he told me he wanted to meet for coffee but never got in touch with me! I’ve been putting in a lot of effort to try and resolve our problems but instead he decides to disregard them. Men are retarded… and this article really opened my eyes! Let’s just say… he’s going to be getting all the space he needs.

Thanks
Dixia Shi from black dress September 15, 2011 at 4:08 am: I agree with author that you must let your man go. If you are destined to be with him and if he loves you, he will surely come back. Sometimes it is necessary to take a break. Break as in not break up, but make each other realize that not to be over possessive. It may become an obsession later.
kitty September 17, 2011 at 9:40 am: What do i do? He says he needs space but he loves me and doesn’t want ne one else. He doesn’t want to see or be with ne one else and this is not a break up. Im confused?
Janice November 12, 2011 at 2:38 pm: Don’t be confused, Kitty. If he says he needs space give it to him. This is not rocket science and don’t beat yourself up over this. Just let him go. Get busy with your own life and don’t just sit around waiting on him.
Angie January 9, 2012 at 12:20 am: high five girl friend! you really are a strong person
Angie January 9, 2012 at 12:24 am: i like this article alot
and the comments made me realize im not the only one
ima b lik w/e and do my thing
mayb work while he’s “thinkin” so at least im gettin my dough on
thanks girls
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isabelle February 8, 2012 at 5:43 am: i’m going through the same thing….we dated for almost two years and he decided to break it off ….he came back a month later and started acting up a week later then he says he needs his space…….i cant really be friends from afar and he doesnt want me near…do i just cut off all communication or leave an ‘open door’ in case he decides to come back?i have to admit though that the open door thingy only hurts. I need help
Cuppycake February 20, 2012 at 12:52 pm: HELP PLEASE!!! Me and my boyfriend have only been dating for around 2 months and he says he wants to take a break but he says he’s in love with me and he promises he will come back and he says it’s only for a week or two at the most and that he still wants to txt n call me every so often n he’s not going to see other ppl…. we don’t see each other all the time as is so I don’t understand this “break” and I’m scared he won’t come back any advise?
dee March 8, 2012 at 8:51 am: Hey Isabelle

I am going thru exaclty the same thing. Me and my partner have been together two years and this is the second real break up we have had. last time he asked for me back after about 2.5 months and we have been fine for a year nw he is doing it again. Everyone has told me he just needs time but im terrified if i let him go and i dont contact him i will simply never speak to him again. the idea of being without him makes me sad beyond belief but everyone tells me just leave him for a while hell be back maybe this is wahat we have to do to move forward. I no u probably feel like ur coming second by letting him do what he wants but if you love him maybe its for the best xxxx hope u sort everything and if not that you are happy with the decision xx
Angel84 March 8, 2012 at 12:03 pm: I have been dating a guy who have a child and separated from his wife. Who cheated on him. And is a total bitch to him. He said to me (This is how it feels to actually be in love.) Third month in he needs space. And wants to be a better man for me (hopefully) his quote. valentines passes. He texts h.v.d! And my birthday comes around he calls to say h.b.d! We had sex on my bday. And now he seems to be coming around. And wants my attention. But now I don’t know if I want the same. My fear of. Will he do this to me again? I’m scared of the same heartbreak. I really distance my heart from him. Now I’m not sure which way to go. It’s been a month and a week. He texts me he misses me and loves me. But I don’t want to seem weak. Because I am dying to want to be with him.