Saving a marriage after adultery can be a very hard and time consuming process. You spent all that time together, loving each other and pledging to be faithful to each other only to have that trust get betrayed. Most marriages end after an affair because it is just so hard to ever trust that person again.

Despite having an affair, some couples still very much love each other. Affairs are nothing more then a symptom of a deeper underlying problem. The first thing you need to do is find out what that problem is, what is causing you to stray from your marriage.

The thing is that as we get older we change and we may acquire different tastes or grow tired of the old. This is where affairs usually take place, once the marriage has settled into a routine and the offending party simply grew bored of it all.

It is understandable, if not acceptable, why the offending party would cheat under those circumstances. As cruel as it may sound, we all grow bored if we do the same thing over and over again. This applies to marriage just the same as it applies to everything else.

The first thing you need to do after adultery, if you wish to save your marriage, is to forgive the offending partner. This likely will not happen over night and it will be very hard. They betrayed your trust and it will take a lot of time and effort on their part to earn it back.

But once you have forgiven them, you can move on to fixing the underlying problems that led to the affair. This is a crucial step. If you do not fix the problem them history will likely just repeat itself. So it is vitally important that you find out why they cheated, really get down to the root of the problem.

Once you have discovered what exactly it was that drove them to cheat, you can work on fixing it. In most cases an affair happens because one of the people involved has grown tired of the routine sexual activities. If this was the case then you might want to sit down with your partner and discuss ways to spice up your love life.

If you can just make changes to the areas the offending party has grown tired of, it can go a long way to prevent them from every straying again. So if it was them growing bored of your love life, then make sure you fix that and talk with them about it.

If it was not something related to your love life, then it may be trickier to fix. Even if this is the case the fundamental points still hold true. Talk with them and find out specifically what they thought the problem was, and why they cheated. From there you just have to make steps towards changing those aspects.

No matter what the case may be, life after adultery can be hard and emotionally taxing. What you need to remember is that you should always do what is best for you. If you feel you can forgive them and continue loving them despite their betrayal, then go for it. However if you do not feel you can forgive them, do not feel guilty or ashamed, they betrayed you so it is your right to walk away.

You want your ex back. You long for her / hunger for him. But you're scared to call. Don't know what you would say. Don't trust yourself to get the words out -- the right words. So what do you do? You write a letter to your love, baby. That's what.

Will a letter do any good, you wonder. Could a letter actually help you get your ex back?

It sure can. It's a million times better than a text message or an email. For one thing, it suggests that you took more time in composing it. That's a point in your favor. Second, it's physical. Your ex will be holding it in his or her hot little hands. It's real, not just digital bytes on a screen. Another point in your favor. It's unusual. No one writes a letter these days. You grab another point. Your ex can carry it around, mull over it. Check! It takes a lot more strength of will to throw away a physical letter than it does to hit the delete button.

Have I convinced you yet?

Okay, you're convinced. Now you're wondering, "What should I write?"

Let's keep it simple:

(a) Tone: You want to come across as cool, calm, and collected.

(b) Content: If you did something to cause the breakup, you'll want to apologize -- once. No rambling sentences. Just one clean "I'm sorry I hurt your feelings. It was thoughtless and I won't do it again."

(c) Content: Accept the breakup. Yup. You heard me. Accept it. And agree that you both need some time off.

Got it? It's all about turning the tables. Doing exactly the opposite of what your ex expects you to. If she expects you to resist the breakup, surprise her by agreeing to it. If he expects you to nag or criticize him, instead apologize for yourself. Most of all, if they're expecting you to run after them, surprise them by standing still. Your ex says he wants distance, give it to him.

Resist any and all temptation to tell him/her (the whole truth of) what you really feel -- i.e., that you're angry, hurt, disappointed, feel betrayed, misled and so on.

Okay, go ahead and tell them -- if you really don't want to get back together again. But if you do want to salvage your relationship, you'll sit on those bad feelings for a while longer. Don't worry. There will be time to let them out -- to express yourself later on. Trust me. There will. Just think -- if your efforts to get your ex back fail, then you can always write them an "I'm so hurt" letter. Just don't do it now.

The letter we're talking about here is a letter to put some emotional power back into your hands. It's a letter that will tell your ex that you miss them -- sure you do -- but you're actually doing quite fine without them. Remember, you've got to sound calm, cheerful even.

This letter is actually part of a finely-honed strategy developed by T 'Dub' Jackson. The full step-by-step instructions for getting your ex back can be found in his book The Magic of Making Up. What's so good about this book is it's down to earth practicality. You'll feel better immediately upon reading this book. Trust me, you will.

So go check it out, right now. Go on! Skidaddle!

Too many people think they must aggressively pursue their ex in order to get him or her back. In fact, nothing could be further from the truth. If you want to know how to win love back, follow the advice in this article as closely as possible.

The first thing you need to know in the how to win love back arena is that you do not want to chase your ex.

Too many guys think they must pursue their exes. They send hundreds of texts, call at odd hours of the day, and even stalk their ex girlfriend's home. They send flowers and gifts.

This is wrong, wrong, wrong. Why?

Well, you'll hear a lot of people tell you that it makes you look "desperate." Could be. But that's not the main problem. The main problem is that it makes cling, and when you cling to someone who wants to get away, it just makes that person want to get away harder. So when you're "try everything and now" mode of trying to win love back, you end up driving it away.

Guys think -- and are so worried about -- losing a woman's respect, that she'll play "games" with him if he shows "desperation." If your girlfriend wanted to get away from you, for whatever reason, then the last thing she wants to do is play games. She wants her "space." She wants time out. And the best -- most common sensical things you can do for her is give it to her.

There are those who would recommend that you play "games" with her head, too. They would say that they best way to win back her love would be to pretend absolute lack of interest.

They would suggest that when you are in a group that includes her, flirt with every girl but her. If she has an enemy in the group, pay special attention to that girl. By ignoring your ex, you make her want to come back to you. You are reminding her of all of your charms, but not applying them to her. That's what some folks would say.

I understand the method or reason behind the madness, but I still think such a technique could sadly backfire. First, if you two get caught up in games, then when does the honesty enter? Second, if she's the type who only wants you when you appear not to want her, then she doesn't really want you at all. Third, if you play up to another girl who sincerely thinks you're interested in her, then you're using someone, playing with her emotions just to manipulate your ex.

Not a good idea.

I've heard it said that it's a good idea to go out on a date with one of her close friends. To send your ex a text message saying, "now that we're just friends, I wanted your opinion on something. Where should I take Mary to dinner after the big game?" That is sure to make your ex girlfriend jealous. It's also sure to cause trouble between her and Mary, while setting Mary up for a disappointment. Some would say it's a great trick for winning her love back. I say it's just a good way to spread the misery and practically ensure that she'll never come back to you.

These are just some of the evil games people play when trying to figure out how to win love back. Don't you play them. They'll only backfire.

And, that is my advice for how (not) to win love back.

Although a breakup with a boyfriend or with a girlfriend can be really depressing, it does not need to mean that the relationship is over. Even if the breakup should suddenly leave you feeling confusion and loneliness, you may still feel really eager to heal the wounds and jump right back in to that relationship with your ex. If you are asking yourself "How can I get my ex back?", then there are some things you need to know. If you learn how to react following a break up, and you become aware of how not to strain the relationship even further, then getting ex back will be easier than ever.

It can seem hard to keep up a cheerful attitude throughout your day following a breakup, but it is believed by relationship experts believe that an optimistic and confident attitude can go a long way. Here are some of the ways that a confident attitude can answer the question "how can I get my ex back?"

Keep your confidence - If you are asking "how can I get my ex back?", then you should remain confident. Rather than going around feeling gloomy, try to find ways that you can keep yourself occupied and happy. Keep the depression out of your demeanor. Allow your ex boyfriend or girlfriend to know that you are strong and that you are more than capable of handling such an emotional situation, and also that you are capable of surviving on your own as well.

Remain socially active - If getting your ex back is your primary focus, surround yourself with well wishers, positive attitudes and good friends. Show your ex that people appreciate you, and that they love having you around. As more people begin to feel good about your presence in their lives, your ex will begin to see you in a completely new light. He or she will realize that yes, you are a good person that they simply cannot afford to let go of. This is one of the best ways to let your ex notice you in a new light.

Maintain a good appearance - Another solution to "How can I get my ex back?" is not to let your appearance reflect your situation. You need to pay attention to every detail of your looks, including your clothes, your make up, your hair, your stride, your shoes and even your voice. It can be hard to act happy or to take care of yourself following a bad breakup, but this is one of the best ways that you can let your ex know that you are doing just fine, and do not need to beg for his or her sympathy. You are going to get back together like adults who are mature and responsible if you are going to get back together at all.

Letter writing: In general, it's a lost art form. Most of us are content to bemoan it and not do anything about it -- not until we have to write one of the most important letters in our lives -- a letter meant to get our ex back. Suddenly, we need to utilize a skill that's rusty under the best of circumstances and nearly impossible, now, under the worst.

Letter writing requires a cool head and a tender heart. When we're suffering the pain of a breakup, many of us are angry, tearful, terrified and yes, desperate. We'll say whatever comes into our minds, express whatever fury or misery that has control of our hearts. We find it impossible to think clearly, much less put down in written form exactly what those thoughts are. As a result, many of us resort to texting, emailing. These are quick fix solutions. They do have their place in the strategy of getting your ex back, but not when it comes to doing the heavy lifting.

How do you write a letter to get your ex back? A love letter that will express what's in your heart without scaring him or her away? A letter that you're sure they'll read? Follow these instructions.

You're going to write a physical letter. Why? Because it's unusual. People rarely get real letters these days. The fact that you would take the time to write one will already go toward pleading your case. Second, it's take more mental effort to throw away a letter than it does to delete an email. Even your ex does throw your letter away, he or she will still think of it, in the trash can and will probably, eventually, go and retrieve it.

First, go out and buy a blank note card, a nice-sized one, not too big and not too small. Why does size matter? If it's too large, you'll either say too much or look as though you're saying too little. Too small and it's vice versa. So a medium-sized card with an evocative, tasteful and non-aggressive design is what you'll aim for.

Pick a card with a photo or art work on the cover that reminds your ex of a good time you spent together -- a picture of a beach in Aruba if you went there on holiday, for example, or of the Eiffel Tour, if you vacationed in Paris. It can be a photo of any place or thing that will trigger conscious (or subconscious) memories of a wonderful and happy time spent together. (Don't go for anything outr or maudlin. No cards with large puppy dog eyes, for example.)

And make sure the card is blank on the inside.

Now, for the "hard" part: the actually composition of the letter!

Terrified are you? One minute your mind was full of things to say. Now, you're staring at that blank card and your mind is as blank as it is. Except it isn't. Your mind, your heart, they're overflowing. The sense of blankness comes from all those thoughts and emotions elbowing each other, trying to get out at the same time.

You're going to take a deep breath, find a note pad and practice writing the following:

(a) That you're doing well and trust that your ex is doing well also; (1 sentence)
(b) That you saw the breakup coming and that you agree with it: you two would do well with some time apart; (1 sentence)
(c) That your ex was right about ________________ (fill in the blank) and that you'll learn to do things differently next time. (1-2 sentences)
(d) That your life is going really well; in fact, and you're excited about a new project, development, or turn of events. (1 sentence)

Use your own words, and keep it simple. The body of the letter should be no more than six (6) sentences. That bears repeating: six sentences, max.

Opening sentence (a) is self-explanatory. Sentence (b) is a matter of putting your ex at ease, and of admitting the truth to yourself. You do have to accept the breakup. The breakup is a fact. It's done, a fait accompli. You must accept it and deal with it if you have any hopes of rescuing the relationship. This sentence also helps restore the power balance. Reclaim some of the power you lost when your ex left. Yes, he or she initiated the breakup, but you wholly agree with it.

In sentence (c), you accept your responsibility for your share (no matter how minimal) in the breakup. Do not admit to something you have not done. Find something that your ex was correct in complaining about and apologize. Do not defend yourself or explain your side of it. This is not the time for that. Use no more than two sentences. Tops.

Sentence (d) serves two purposes: It reminds you that despite your despair over the (temporary) loss of your relationship, you do have stuff to be happy about. It also tells your ex that you're aware of that fact. What new project or development or turn of events? Who knows? Life is constantly changing. It could be something as simple as your own change in attitude -- or something as major as a new job. Whatever it is, do not -- I repeat -- do not specify it in the letter. You're only mentioning it to awaken your ex's curiosity.

It also convey the impression that you're doing fine, that you're strong, and that as much as you want this person back, losing this is not the endall of your existence. Sentence (d) closes the letter on a positive note. The tone of the entire letter in fact should be upbeat, straightforward, ahead-looking.

Again, come up with simple sentences that sound like you. If it helps, imagine that your ex is in the room, that you're talking to her (or him) face-to-face and write down what you'd say. Or speak into a dictaphone. Then write that down. When done, listen to what you've said, read what you've written and ask yourself this one important question: "Would I be happy getting a letter like this from someone I just left?"

In other words, does the letter convey love and warmth (both attractive, irresistible emotions), or does it contain traces of anger?

If your letter is emotionally "clean," then go to the card and write the real version.

Sign it with something as neutral as "Yours."

There, that wasn't so difficult, was it?

Now, for the final touch. You must, absolutely must, use this final touch. And you must be correct in your choice.

If you're a man, scent the card with your cologne. Make sure, absolutely sure, it's the one she loved on you. If you're a woman, spritz the missive with the perfume he gave you. You get the idea. We're talking semi-subliminal attraction -- working the senses. When done this way, the card invokes three of the senses:

- touch (the physicality of the card; it's real and he or she will be touching what you've touched);
- sight (the evocative image on the cover, the sight of your handwriting);
- smell (a wonderful aroma associated with you and romantic moments).

What do you do if your handwriting is terrible? All the more reason for you to keep the letter brief. Whatever you do, write the letter by hand. Do not type it. That would eliminate a large part of the letter's potency.

One last tip: Don't spritz the card itself -- it could leave stains. Spritz the inside of the envelope. Lightly.

Address the letter by hand. Then affix a stamp. Make sure the stamp is remarkable, and even evocative in its own way. Please, do not have your secretary stamp the letter with a postage meter. Everything, again, everything about this card must be personal, and therefore intimate.

All that's left now is to drop the card in the mailbox.

Afterward, you'll feel better for having taken a healthy step toward both recovering and rekindling your relationship. You'll have done something you can be proud of.

Remember: It's not just a matter of making up, but of making up the right way!

Almost everyone in their life has had to go through a breakup. A breakup is a strange thing. Most things in life, the more you do them, the easier it becomes to do. With breakups no matter how many you've had to go through in the past, they certainly don't become easier to go through.

After a breakup, unless the relationship was completely terrible, most people desire to get their ex back. In fact, sometimes, even if the relationship was unhealthy, they still desire to get their ex back. You really shouldn't try to get back with your ex if they ever used physical violence or words to hurt you. That is not a healthy relationship. If you were in a relationship like that and your ex broke up with you, then consider yourself lucky.

Otherwise, most relationships follow a pretty predictable pattern. When you first meet someone everything is wonderful and new. They can do no wrong and you can do no wrong in their eyes. After a short while comfort sets in. You adjust to each other. When the newness is gone and the comfort is there things in the relationship change. The little quirks you were willing to overlook before actually bother you now.

There is an expression: "Familiarity breeds contempt." Truer words couldn't be spoken for relationships. After a couple get comfortable and familiar with each other, trouble usually starts. This is exactly what tests the strength of the relationship. It takes work and effort to maintain a relationship. Sometimes, when things break, instead of getting repaired, the other person wants out of the relationship completely

Do you believe, despite it being over, your relationship is worth salvaging, even if the other person made it clear, it's over? You need some answers on how get your ex back. Here are four steps you can take.

1. Say you're sorry

Saying you are sorry is one of the best how get your ex back methods. Even if it doesn't get your ex back, it's usually the best first step. Be sure that you say sorry for the right reasons. After a breakup it can be easy to blame yourself for everything. Remember, it takes two people to have a successful relationship. Knowing what exactly to apologize for is critical.

Whatever you do, when you apologize, don't let your ex bait you into an argument. The biggest irony of saying sorry to an ex is that it can easily lead to another fight. If you say you're sorry, and your ex brings something else up, don't get defensive. Stay calm, keep your emotions, your ego, and your pride in check.

2. Sit down and talk things out

If your ex is up to it, set a time where both of you can sit down and talk. Whatever you don't beg, plead, cry, or force your ex into this. If they don't want to, then just go to the next step. If they do agree, you're going to have to keep your emotions in check. This isn't the time to get into a fight again. Make it clear to your ex that you have no desire to bring blame into the discussion.

You want to talk about the issues objectively. If you talk strictly about the issues without assigning blame, you'll get better results. It is best if you can get a therapist or an expert in the field of relationships involved with this, if at all possible.

3. Give some space

This may seem counter-intuitive to how get your ex back. You have to remember just because you want to talk to them or see them, doesn't mean they do. It is crucial to allow the partner some space. A brief time away from each other, before you try to win them back, will give you both time to cool down and a chance for them to miss you. If you're in touch with them all the time, they won't be able to miss you.

4. Show them you care about yourself

Prove to them that you care about yourself. If you seem desperate, clingy, and whiny, you will not succeed. If you sit around the house waiting for them to call or keep checking your email every few minutes hoping to get their message, you're not doing yourself any favors. Hang out with friends. Go to movies, go to concerts, go to the mall. Whatever, just get up and get out and live your life.

It's best if you're not there when your ex calls. Then they'll be wondering what you're doing. If you're out and your cell rings and its your ex, don't answer it. Let the call go to voice mail. The best thing to do is wait until the next day to call them back. Tell them you were busy, and you didn't have time to call them back. This will probably shock them. You may even be able to get them to pursue you again.

Spring is finally here. Along with it comes a resurgence of longing for that special someone.

Maybe the break up isn't that "fresh," anymore. Maybe it even happened a couple of months ago. You've followed all the advice about giving your ex a cooling off period, time to breathe, time to miss you. You've given yourself time to see if you really want to get back together.

And now you know. You do want to get back together. You really do.

You know that no matter how much time passes, you will always miss her. You will always want her back.

You've tried to date new people. What happens? The nicer the person is, the guiltier you feel. Because you're not interested in him. He's not the man you love. He is not the one who got away.

All you really want is your ex. All you think about is getting back together. Especially now, when the weather is getting warmer.

What's the first step toward getting back together with your ex?

The first is to take a realistic assessment of your chances of getting back together. How do you do that? Find out where your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend is emotionally. Is he or she dating, anyone? Are there signs that he or she misses you, too?

Even if your ex is dating someone else, you might still stand a chance of getting back together. Start with a text message, then an email. Always be light-hearted. If closed, then reopen the channels of communication with your ex gradually. Who knows? He or she might be thrilled that you took the first step. You'll never know if you don't try.

But whatever you do, remember this: It's not just a matter of making up, but of making up the right way!

Do you know how to keep a woman happy? Just think: If you keep her happy, you won't have to worry about losing her and getting her back again. Here is some priceless advice on relationships for men.

The first advice on relationships item I have for you is to always be yourself. Many men dont feel that they are good enough to catch a beautiful, sexy woman, so they put on a show. But a confident man is the sexiest beast around. Have you ever noticed that some of the ugliest guys have some of the prettiest women? That is because they display a level of confidence that is more attractive to women than physical looks.

Next, you should do the little things. This means offering to take her car in for an oil change or giving her a bag of Jelly Bellies (her favorite flavors) from time to time. Sometimes men think in terms of grand gestures, when it is the little things add up to long relationships.

This ties into the next piece of advice on relationships: appreciate her. You shouldnt take her for granted. Let her know that you value her.

Next up is not obviously looking at other women when you are with her. Women think that you are comparing her to the woman youre looking at. They don't understand the whole concept of the day I stop looking is the day I die. This comes from the biological drive for monogamy in women. Women are looking for a lifetime partner for a man with whom they can raise children. They cant help it. That's how evolution designed them. So minimize the ogling, especially when shes around.

You should try to make her laugh. While men list good looks at the top of the things they need in a woman, women list a mans sense of humor. So, if you want the relationship to last, keep her laughing.

The next bit of advice on relationships comes in seeking common interests. It's great if you got together because of a hobby or an interest, but it still helps when you take an interest in a long standing passion of hers. If this means developing an appreciation for foreign films, so be it. This shows that you care about her and she'll know you are one in a million.

Once you get the girl, it may seem like you don't have to try anymore at least as far as grooming goes. And, while women are less sensitive to looks than men are, they still like a man who makes an attempt. So, shave on weekends. Keep in touch with the latest fashion trends for men. In short, don't get sloppy just because youve landed her. You can unland her just as easily.

She's going to need to know that she can integrate you into her circle of family and friends. A man must be part of her larger life, especially after the first few weeks of passion are over. So, make an effort to get along with her girlfriends and impress her parents. A woman relies on her social network to validate her relationship choices. Make an effort.

You should always be considerate of her feelings. Women are less stable than guys. Part of this is hormonal. When you are sensitive to her mood, you wont get on her bad side.

The final piece of advice on relationships is to be open to trying new things. At the beginning of a relationship, everything is new from the types of dates you arrange to the way you kiss. But, after a while, these things become routine. If you find that your relationship has fallen into a rut, shake things up. Try something new. It will go a long way to keeping your relationship healthy.

So, there are ten bits of advice on relationships to keep your dating life strong. Look you guys, these things are common sense and the fact is I almost drove my sweetheart out of my life because I didn't pay attention to what I was doing. There is a book that woke me up written by T 'Dub' Jackson called "The Magic Of Making Up." After I read it and began applying his common sense suggestions, our love life turned around. Not only that all of my personal relationships, with friends, co-workers and my family have become much smother than they were before.

You might want to check out "The Magic of Making Up" yourself.

If you really think that you and your ex are meant to get back together, then you need to learn how to get her back. Learning how to get her back is not necessarily difficult, but it does take some thinking and some planning if you really do want to get the results you seek.

1 - Though it may seem counter-intuitive when rekindling the relationship is what you seek, if you want to learn how to get her back you need to begin by cutting off communication for a while. This is going to be tough, and it may even feel as if it is killing you, but it will be killing her even more. After a little bit of time she will begin to realize how much she really needs you, and how much she desperately misses you. Cutting off communication is one of the biggest and most vital steps in rekindling things with your ex.

2 - Allow yourself to recover emotionally. If you want to learn how to get her back, you need to take the time to become emotionally controlled and calmed down. Women dislike me who are desperate, clingy or needy, so pull your life together and get over those feelings long before you consider trying to draw her back in to your life.

3 - Flirt with someone new. This is another step that may seem counterintuitive in nature, but it is extremely useful if you are trying to learn how to get her back. Start talking to another girl, because it will be too much for your ex to bear. Not only will this benefit you because it will take some of your stress away, but it will also let your ex girlfriend know that you are moving on, which will make her jealous and cause her to realize how much she really wants to be with you.

4 - Behave as if nothing is bothering you. In other words, if you want to learn how to get her back, you need to play it cool. She is not going to want to take you back if you are feeling and behaving depressed. You need to make sure that you are behaving as if you are having a good time, overcoming the break up depression to let her know that everything is okay.

5 - Always look your best. Make sure that you are dressed to kill and look your best all the time. She won't be able to resist you, hands down. Appearance can play a large role in showing your ex that you're moving on and look great. If you look great and take the time to look your best, your ex will notice, and will respond positively.

Remember: It's not just a matter of making up, but making up the right way!

Wondering, "How can I get my girlfriend to love me again . . ." after you've cheated? If so, you've probably already tried everything you can think of. You've told her it didn't mean anything, you've apologized over and over again and said you'd never do it again, you've begged on your hands and knees for forgiveness. But that didn't work and you're back to square one.

You need to be careful when you're trying to win your girlfriend back under any circumstances--but especially if you've cheated. You do want her back desperately and would do anything to change what you did, but it won't help to appear desperate. That would only contribute to the many reasons she has for not accepting you back right now. But how can you show her how sorry you are then?

One of the best strategies in regaining your girlfriend's heart is to write her a letter. Tell her that you agree with her decision to take some time. Tell her that she's exactly right, the two of you should really be going your own separate ways. Tell her that you've seen the end coming for quite a while now. After that, write a short apology. Tell her how very sorry you are for cheating on her. Agree that it showed a tremendous lack of respect towards her and once again convey how you really regret having done it. And finally, reveal that something really wonderful as happened in your life and you'd like to tell her about it whenever you can. Sign off in a neutral way and you've created the letter.

Whether you've realized it or not, sending a letter that contains those concepts is an extremely effective way to get your girlfriend's "love blood" flowing again. You're showing in a very classy way that you know what you've done and understand how it has hurt her and, at the same time, you're showing her that you're not completely devastated and mucking around in self-hate and pity. ..you're ready to start anew. It's very likely when your girlfriend reads the letter that she will contact you soon afterwards and you won't be in the position of begging for her time and forgiveness anymore.

This is just the first step in winning your girlfriend's heart back and you will definitely need to be ready when she gets back in touch with you after reading your letter. While you're waiting for her answer, make sure you take care of yourself, go out with friends and keep yourself busy - concentrate on being positive and upbeat. You want to be in the right state of mind when your girlfriend gets back to you. Don't hang around the phone and mope when you haven't heard anything yet.

Give it time. And play it cool when she does get in touch with you. Hopefully this has helped you with the first step in your question of "How can I get my girlfriend to love me again. . .even after I've cheated."