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Spring Fever & Getting Back Together

Ambrosia — Mon, 26 Jul 2010 22:45:37 +0000

Spring is finally here. Along with it comes a resurgence of longing for that special someone.

Maybe the break up isn't that "fresh," anymore. Maybe it even happened a couple of months ago. You've followed all the advice about giving your ex a cooling off period, time to breathe, time to miss you. You've given yourself time to see if you really want to get back together.

And now you know. You do want to get back together. You really do.

You know that no matter how much time passes, you will always miss her. You will always want her back.

You've tried to date new people. What happens? The nicer the person is, the guiltier you feel. Because you're not interested in him. He's not the man you love. He is not the one who got away.

All you really want is your ex. All you think about is getting back together. Especially now, when the weather is getting warmer.

What's the first step toward getting back together with your ex?

The first is to take a realistic assessment of your chances of getting back together. How do you do that? Find out where your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend is emotionally. Is he or she dating, anyone? Are there signs that he or she misses you, too?

Even if your ex is dating someone else, you might still stand a chance of getting back together. Start with a text message, then an email. Always be light-hearted. If closed, then reopen the channels of communication with your ex gradually. Who knows? He or she might be thrilled that you took the first step. You'll never know if you don't try.

But whatever you do, remember this: It's not just a matter of making up, but of making up the right way!

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How (Not) to Win Love Back: The Evil Games People Play

Ambrosia — Sun, 25 Jul 2010 17:23:50 +0000

Too many people think they must aggressively pursue their ex in order to get him or her back. In fact, nothing could be further from the truth. If you want to know how to win love back, follow the advice in this article as closely as possible.

The first thing you need to know in the how to win love back arena is that you do not want to chase your ex.

Too many guys think they must pursue their exes. They send hundreds of texts, call at odd hours of the day, and even stalk their ex girlfriend's home. They send flowers and gifts.

This is wrong, wrong, wrong. Why?

Well, you'll hear a lot of people tell you that it makes you look "desperate." Could be. But that's not the main problem. The main problem is that it makes cling, and when you cling to someone who wants to get away, it just makes that person want to get away harder. So when you're "try everything and now" mode of trying to win love back, you end up driving it away.

Guys think -- and are so worried about -- losing a woman's respect, that she'll play "games" with him if he shows "desperation." If your girlfriend wanted to get away from you, for whatever reason, then the last thing she wants to do is play games. She wants her "space." She wants time out. And the best -- most common sensical things you can do for her is give it to her.

There are those who would recommend that you play "games" with her head, too. They would say that they best way to win back her love would be to pretend absolute lack of interest.

They would suggest that when you are in a group that includes her, flirt with every girl but her. If she has an enemy in the group, pay special attention to that girl. By ignoring your ex, you make her want to come back to you. You are reminding her of all of your charms, but not applying them to her. That's what some folks would say.

I understand the method or reason behind the madness, but I still think such a technique could sadly backfire. First, if you two get caught up in games, then when does the honesty enter? Second, if she's the type who only wants you when you appear not to want her, then she doesn't really want you at all. Third, if you play up to another girl who sincerely thinks you're interested in her, then you're using someone, playing with her emotions just to manipulate your ex.

Not a good idea.

I've heard it said that it's a good idea to go out on a date with one of her close friends. To send your ex a text message saying, "now that we're just friends, I wanted your opinion on something. Where should I take Mary to dinner after the big game?" That is sure to make your ex girlfriend jealous. It's also sure to cause trouble between her and Mary, while setting Mary up for a disappointment. Some would say it's a great trick for winning her love back. I say it's just a good way to spread the misery and practically ensure that she'll never come back to you.

These are just some of the evil games people play when trying to figure out how to win love back. Don't you play them. They'll only backfire.

And, that is my advice for how (not) to win love back.

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Get an Ex Girlfriend Back With a Successful Battle Plan

Ambrosia — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 14:15:24 +0000

John wanted to get his ex girlfriend back. A veteran of the war in Iraq, he decided that the best strategy would be to make a "battle plan" to get an ex girlfriend back.

John's ex, Macy, broke up with him because she had met someone else, a poet. John knew that while Macy had an artistic streak, she wouldn't ultimately be happy with someone whose idea of a good time was rhyming couplets. In short, the poet wasn't the kind of man John was.

So, John set out a battle plan to get an ex girlfriend back. There were three prongs to his approach.

First, he smoothed out his own rough edges. He let his crew cut grow out and got a short stylish haircut. He started reading the books Macy had mentioned. He figured that to get an ex girlfriend back, he had to be the kind of boyfriend she wanted.

Next, he showed her that he was a virile man that other women wanted. He called up Sarah, a friend of Macy's, and asked her if she wanted to go to dinner as a casual date. When she said yes, John texted Macy and asked where Sarah might like to go on a date.

Macy immediately called John and wanted to know why he was taking Sarah out. John told her that they were broken up and he was moving on. He had always thought Sarah was an interesting person and thought it might be a good time to get to know her. If Macy had any objections, maybe she should reconsider the break up.

Macy slammed down the phone, which John expected. But he had planted the idea with Macy that he was a desirable guy. This was all part of his get an ex girlfriend back strategy.

His third prong of attack was to use the date with Sarah to get information back to Macy. John was the perfect gentleman on his date with Sarah. He brought her a single rose when he picked her up. He took her to a nice restaurant. And, on the date, he talked about the fabulous books he had been reading lately.

Then, when he dropped her off, he gave her a hug and a kiss on the cheek but didn't go any further. The next day, he sent her a lovely bouquet and said, "I had a really good time. I hope you did too."

Sarah, of course, was on the phone with Macy immediately. She wanted to know why Macy had broken off a relationship with such a great guy.

Meanwhile, the luster had gone off the relationship with the poet, and Macy was missing John a lot.

Macy called John a couple of days after his date with Sarah and wanted to know if the two of them could try starting up their relationship again.

That, my friends, is how to get an ex girlfriend back.

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Five Most Important Things to Remember About Dating Girls

Ambrosia — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 18:18:26 +0000

Everyone does it. Not everyone loves it. Whether you enjoy dating or find it stressful and horrible, you know that if you are ever going to find the one person who can stop your dating life forever, you have to do it. Gentlemen, you simply have to date girls if you are ever going to find the perfect one for you. So, here is some good advice for you.

Successful dating can be broken down into the five most important things about dating girls.They are:

Girls are not guys. They do not think it is fun to make noises by placing their hands under their armpits and acting like a winged creature. Even if they are drunk, they don't like this. Save this type of behavior for guy's night.

Girls are not guys. They do not think it is cool to brag about your previous relationship conquests. They do not want to know about the ditzy blonde who had nothing to say but had the most amazing rack ever created. Nor do they think it is great to have their guy greeted by every woman in the place. Take your date to a different place just to be on the safe side and never, never, never mention your ex-girlfriend.

Girls are not guys. They do not like to see you show up at their door in your ratty old jeans with a cheap five-buck pizza in hand. Trust me on this one. Maybe later way later, like after the kids become teenagers it will be okay for this kind of thing to happen. But for now, please, guys: take a shower, put on something nice like khakis and a pullover shirt, and have flowers in hand instead of greasy fast food.

Girls are not guys. They do not love it when their date pulls out buy-one-get-one-free coupons at the restaurant cash register. There is nothing wrong with a bargain, especially in these tough economic times, but use those freebies when you go out with your mom (who will love your thriftiness) or your best buddy (who wouldnt notice or care how you paid). Dont make your date think that she is not worth full price.

Girls are not guys. They do not find burping and farting contests hilariously interesting and entertaining. Who can come up with most-silent-but-most-deadly one without any prior warning is nothing to be proud of, according to the female half of the population. Neither is it way cool to be able to belch out the melody to The Star-Spangled Banner. Again, save it for football night with the frat brothers.

Remembering the five most important things to remember about dating girls will take you farther than anything else when it comes to having a great time on your dates. The five most important things to remember about dating girls will also allow you to get more than one date with the same lady. There are lots of people who will offer you lots of advice about dating, and even some who will simply say, "Be yourself."

That is not terrible advice, but trust me, if being yourself includes any of the forbidden behavior in the five most important things to remember when dating girls list, don't be yourself. Be better. Remember these five most important things about dating girls and have a better dating life.

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How to Get Your Ex Back: Avoiding Rebound Relationships

Ambrosia — Sun, 11 Jul 2010 19:25:53 +0000

A lot of people seem to think that rebounds are bad, that if you really want your ex back, you need to avoid rebound relationships. This isn't necessarily true, and here's why: It's a hard fact to swallow, but the truth is your ex isn't the only person in the world who will ever be able to make you happy. It may feel like all is lost without him, but trust me, a lot of other people could be just as wonderful, if not better for you.

Rebound relationships have a bad reputation. They tend to be a little hasty, and sometimes people get hurt because one person wasn't as serious as the other. However, during the short span of time after the breakup in which you're not really talking to each other, it's actually not a bad idea to take stock of yourself and part of that is to see what sort of people are around you.

Most of the time, even if you still want to get your ex back, playing the singles game for a little while is actually good for healing your heartache. It'll show you that life doesn't end without your ex, and even if you're still in love with him and want to give things another try, you'll find some confidence in knowing it's not the end of the world without him. Confidence can give you a lot of strength, and even help get him back.

There's nothing like the reassurance that everything will be okay regardless of whether you're successful in getting your ex back, to make it easier to get your ex back. So really, a rebound relationship might not be your particular taste, but it's far from the "horrible move" that it's become known as.

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Dating The Divorced Man And What You Should Know

Ambrosia — Thu, 01 Jul 2010 09:27:44 +0000

Most women at some point in their lives will find themselves involved with a recently separated or divorced man. You will read some dating tips for women that discourage you from putting yourself in this situation.

Is it really that big of deal though?

The answer to this question is a little bit yes and a little bit no.

People marry, divorce and meet someone new quite commonly. While divorce brings many more complications than traditional boyfriend/girlfriend breakups, the aftermath is just like any other breakup, there is the period of adjustment. Hollywood will often depict this time with a broken down man, holed up in his apartment, unshaven, in need of a haircut, walking around in boxers and a bathrobe, eating cereal, drinking beer and playing video games. Eventually he cleans up, shaves and ventures back out into the real world. Perhaps he catches your fancy and you think he is well over the hurt and anger from the divorce, seemingly ready to date.

Be warned, though, that there is still plenty of excess baggage there and you should investigate before getting involved. You need to know what this baggage is and whether or not its something you can deal with.

One of the first dating tips in this situation is knowing what his intentions are with you. Is he really looking for something serious or is he just playing the field and seeing what his options are? Is he looking to casually date, bed at least a dozen more women before getting serious again or is he wanting another commitment?

There are some great guys coming out of a divorce that are still absolute romantics. They believe in relationships and commitment, but were just in the wrong situation previously. On the opposite end of the spectrum, some men may be all too eager to re-enter the dating world, especially if they were the one that exited the marriage. Maybe they married young and never really had a chance to date much. This guy could be looking to make up for lost time.

You will also need to know the specifics of the divorce and if he wants a relationship with you at some point. Emphatically state that you will not be the transition girl. However, if its a matter of him needing more time to know for sure, think it over because there could be so much going on with him psychologically and emotionally that he is confused. Particularly if the ex-wife left him for someone else or simply because she fell out of love with him. He may be undergoing some trust issues and will need more time to truly let someone else in. He needs to communicate this to you and you need to trust that he is not using the - oh, I am divorced - routine for sympathy or an excuse for his apparent commitment phobia. A great deal of patience, understanding and trust will be necessary if you are really into this guy.

If there are children involved you need to ask yourself if you are capable of handling this. Chances are, with children in the equation, his ex-wife will still have a regular presence in his life. Its a package deal and you must have confidence in yourself to accept it. You cant be worrying about the ex having a better body than you, making more money than you or the children preferring to be with her more than you. It really can be a difficult situation to walk into.

Here is one of the more telling signs when it comes to identifying how serious he is with you. If you are together for a few months and you have not been introduced to his parents/relatives, his ex-wife and children, or his friends, it may be safe to assume that he is not sure what sort of commitment he is prepared to make just yet.

So look out for these signs when dating a divorced man and make sure you don't misread the situation and end up hurt.

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